Moving On After a Breakup

Moving On After a Breakup

Anxiety, Therapy

Even when you know a breakup is for the best, getting rejected is still painful. 

Whether you’ve been dating someone for two months or two years, moving on is a process. 

Recovering from a breakup certainly won’t happen overnight. Even though it’s easier said than done, you just have to take it one day at a time. 

Take Your Time To Process How You Feel

We all deal with and accept loss in our own way. Some of us feel the pain right away, while others need some time to really accept and come to terms with what happened.

You may not know or understand how you feel, for days or even weeks.  

Don’t rush the process. Take all the time you need to process your feelings. 

Appreciate What You Have

When we’re hurting, sometimes we can forget how lucky we are. Take some time to think about all the incredible people, hobbies, passions and opportunities you have in your life. 

Open Up

Talking about your feelings (both positive and negative) can help us better understand them. 

Almost all of us have been broken up with at least once in our lives.  There is a very good chance a friend or family member would have some insight and advice to pass on.

Don’t Blame Yourself

When relationships don’t work out, it’s easy to blame yourself and assume you must have done something wrong.

The truth is, sometimes relationships run their course and just don’t work out.

Maybe your partner had different long term goals or wasn’t ready to settle down. You never know.  Just because a relationship ended doesn’t mean either person is to blame. 

Look For The Learning Opportunity

Every romantic relationship, every friendship, every colleague has something to teach you. Take some time to think about all the things your ex taught you.

Maybe they introduced you to a book you absolutely love, or maybe they taught you how to be more patient.

The Pain is Temporary

As we discussed earlier, being broken up with is painful, and sometimes it can feel like the pain is too strong and will never go away.

Feelings are not facts. And just because you feel something doesn’t make it true.

Today, tomorrow and even next week, you may still be hurting. But every single day will get a little bit easier.

And before you know it, things will get better, and you will move on.